Pure Nectar—A Series from the SHFT Catalysts—Thoughts from Alvely Alcantara

Pure Nectar—A Series from the SHFT Catalysts—Thoughts from Alvely Alcantara

About a week ago, my husband, Robert eagerly asked me if I had seen John Kim’s post in which he discussed what the current nectar is in his life. The concept of nectar was not new to me as I have been reading John’s blogs for years now, but it had never occurred to me to think of the things that I consider to be the nectar in my life. Robert had created his list and was excited to share it with me. This inspired me and motivated me to be mindful about the nectar in my own life.

To me, nectar refers to things in life that bring me a deep sense of joy that often is felt throughout my entire body.

Below is a list of the nectar in my life:

  • Coming home after a long day of work and taking a warm shower, with the lights off, and a candle burning, as I listen to a gorgeous meditation. This is my favorite part of my daily self-care/self-love routine.
  • The softness of our blanket on my skin, which soothes me when I have difficulty falling asleep.
  • The beautiful breeze bringing news of the fall season coming along!
  • Morning hugs from Robert. Touch is important to us both and not a day goes by in which we don’t embrace each other after waking up.
  • My niece’s beautiful, joyful laughter.
  • The first taste of my mother’s Dominican cooking when I go back home to NYC.
  • Holding my best friend’s five-month-old son as he falls asleep on my chest.
  • Music. It speaks to my soul.
  • The satisfaction after completing a BUTI yoga class. 
  • Orgasms. Especially the ones after being apart for some time.
  • Listening to the nudges from the Universe/God and taking a leap of faith to do the things that scare me, because as fearful as I feel about the unknown, the joy strongly sends a tingling sensation through my body about digging deep into that same unknown.
  • My intuition and where in my body it lives. For this I am eternally thankful.
  • The smell of the ocean, the sand on my toes, the sun’s kiss on my face and body.
  • Road trips with Robert, and that feeling of butterflies in my stomach as he holds my hands while he drives.
  • That sigh of relief after completing something I’ve put off.

These things bring me joy in various ways, and change as days go by, yet some of them always have that effect of creating pure bliss within me. Life can be challenging, but there are always moments of blissful joy that often go unnoticed. Look for those moments. Enjoy them.

It is always a beautiful moment when we realize that there are many things in our lives that bring us a deep sense of joy, no matter how insignificant these blissful moments may be to someone else, practice mindfulness, and seek that nectar.

You wanna live? Get dirty.

You wanna live? Get dirty.

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