The #1 Motivating Question To Ask Yourself
What drives you? What makes you get up each morning and climb that mountain? What makes you push through when you feel like you have nothing?
Deficiency Motivation vs. Abundance Motivation.
Deficiency motivation comes from a place of lack. Your drive stems from not believing you have enough. So you are desperately trying to fill holes. Because if you have enough, you will be enough. With this mindset, you will always be chasing your tail, working toward feeling complete instead of feeling complete already and trying to build something that is not tied to your worth. This keeps you in a chasing state. And when you are chasing, you are powerless.
You are putting happy on hold. Or more accurately, giving your happy to other people or things to hold for you. So you live with feelings of less than. You are driven to prove you matter. If you get what you want or “win”, it means you have value. If you don’t, it means you don’t. So you are in fight or flight, desperately clawing your way toward your goals. Doing everything you can do achieve because if you don’t, you will be invisible.
Deficiency motivation is making it about you.
Abundance motivation comes from wondering what it would look like to expand, to live at your potential. You are not desperate. You are curious, about what’s possible, the dent you can make in this world. You believe you have value and you want to share it with the world. Abundance means taking you and your insecurities out of the picture. Your motivation comes from a place that is greater than you. It comes from your story. It comes from knowing you had to go through everything you went through to become who you are now and taking everything you’ve learned about life and the world to give back, to shine your light, to be a prism.
Abundance motivation is making it about the world.
Abundance motivation is limitless. But more importantly since it is not tied to your worth, but rather because of your worth, it is pure and healthy. There is no cliff to fall from. When you’re motivation comes from a place of abundance, there is no room to cement false beliefs. You are doing nothing more than what you were meant to do, expand.
So ask yourself, are you motivated by deficiency or abundance? By lacking or wanting to share your gifts?
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