Why You Don't Have to Fake it Til You Make It
Along my own personal improvement rollercoaster (because “journey” does’t quiiiite convey the ups and downs as well), “Fake it ‘till you make it” has always rubbed me the wrong way.
Something feels slimy about pretending, when I’m simply trying to be the best version of myself.
What does being the best version of myself mean? I’m learning it looks like standing up for what I believe in. It sounds like speaking my truths. It, simultaneously, feels like fear and empowerment (because discomforting is hard yo).
For years, I thought “Fake it till you make it” was the way to go. Even though I wasn’t a fan. Madison Hedlund changed this for me. She shared thoughts on how we already are who we want to be, we just need to let that part of ourselves out. I fell in love.
What a refreshing thought to think I already held everything with in me. All I had to do was practice leaving the door unlocked so my inner-authentic-badass-self could get out from the cold dark room I had locked her in.
If you thought of yourself as already possessing the qualities you desire, would your perception of “self” change? Would you still think you’re broken and need fixing? Would you still believe you need to be somebody else in order to be happy?
I didn’t think so.
This is good news, friends! It means you can shed the armor that’s been wearing and weighing you down. All you need to do is act like the best version of your own damn self. Forget what everyone else is doing, because it doesn’t matter. What matters is showing up and living with your values and belief systems.
I found so much freedom and joy in realizing I already am the person I wish to be. I hope you can find the same.
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