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Commitment Means You Feel It In Your Bones

Commitment Means You Feel It In Your Bones

Just do it.

Now, before you write me off as just another motivational blabber, know this: motivational stuff royally pisses me off sometimes. 

Why? Because it’s often thrown around like salt. People think more is better and sprinkle that shit all over the place. Errrr. Wrong. The problem with the recipe isn’t going to be fixed with more salt, when you forgot to put the rosemary in! They’re two different things.

As an example, more motivation isn’t going to fix jack shit if a bigger principle is missing. More “gung-honess” isn’t going to magically result in instant commitment and dedication.

Another example, if I’m coaching someone at the gym and their squat looks messy, how helpful do you think this is going to be, “SQUAT HARDER! COME ON! LET’S GO! SQUAT!” If you’ve guessed "1/10" (10 being the best advice ever and 1 being confusing the hell out of the person and making them feel like a helpless fool) ding ding ding you guessed the right answer!

If my client doesn’t know how to squat, or how to correct their squat, me telling them to squat harder is just as helpful as using salt instead of sugar. In other words, not at all, and kind of gross.

That being said, there is a time where “just doing it" can come into place. And that is after you commit.

Committing means feeling a decision in your bones.

Committing means being 100% ready, willing, and able to sacrifice frivolous matters in order to reach your goal. Cut the fat, as John Kim says.

Committing means being ruthless with your time and energy. If an activity does not serve your goal, it doesn’t serve you. Therefore, that activity no longer belongs in your life.

Committing means setting rules for yourself.

Committing means weighing all options. It means practicing Practical Pessimism and being fully aware of what it’s going to take to reach your goal. What price are you willing to pay?

Committing means welcoming discomfort. Because there will be pain, sweat, tears, and all of the other feelings we tend to avoid. As Benjamin P. Hardy wrote, "How big is the emotional roller-coaster of life you’re going to ride? Small rises and dips? Or huge rises, drops, spins, and twists? Life is meant to be lived, emotions are meant to be felt and experienced. You get to design the roller-coaster.”

Before you decide to do something and end up half-assing it (we all know nothing good comes from that), ask yourself:

1.  Am I ready?

2.  Am I willing?

3.  Am I able?

If you answer yes to the above questions, then commit. And just do it.

Don’t think you’re the type of person who can stick with something? Think again. There are plenty of examples of how you’ve put your mind to something and followed through.  Book a free session with me, where I’ll show you how to use tools you already possess to reach your new goals.

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